Solution: play something that has essentially zero strategy, where who wins is close to random. Like Ludo or Yahtzee.
My daughter often wins at Ludo, but it's not because I let her. She also often loses.
My daughter often wins at Ludo, but it's not because I let her. She also often loses.
Just not be afraid to really lose to your child in game which at start equally unknown for both you and your child. Let your child to learn how to win and learn how to learn to win.
As an example of such a learning: https://news.ycombinator.com/item?id=11653538
If you or your child do not like chess, you can choose any other game, which allows your child to use his fluent mind strengths to win you. Just stop thinking that child is small, stupid and unable to win a fair game. He really can win, but not the games where your crystallized mind has its advantages.
But I meant something different. Learning how to play particular game is a small step to aquiring general learning skills. How to learn is a great problem, and many do not know efficient ways to learn something. But its very important not only to move forward after a failure, but to become smarter and increase chances of making successful decisions on the next occasion to win.
I want my kids to beat me, not just win by chance.
A bit of a sidetrack, but Ludo does have decisions: which disc to move and how many spaces. Chasing vs rushing to complete. Whether to move a disc when a 6 is diced or to bring a new disc into play.
Chutes/snakes and Ladders is pure luck.
Lots of things in life (good and bad) are pure luck. Handling things you "do/don't deserve" with appropriate emotional responses is a valuable life skill.
> Lots of things in life (good and bad) are pure luck. Handling things you "do/don't deserve" with appropriate emotional responses is a valuable life skill.
That is also true.
Likewise the violin. There are "levels" to reach, and competitions, but ultimately it's down to you and the music and the instrument. The point where my daughter surpassed me on violin came remarkably quickly. Granted, I was trying to play along on the double bass.
As I read it, the idea occurred to me to learn a new instrument along with your child. My experience is that kids learn to play an instrument faster than an adult; even given that, they'll only progress along with you by practising, and it's a pretty cool way to spend time with your kid.
Thanks for the inspiration.
Card games are particularly good in this respect, but there are a wide variety of games where a completely unskilled player can occasionally win against a much more skilled opponent.