Fortunately I'm sure people are hard at work finding "proxy factors" which happen to map to pretty well gender but have an acceptable parallel explanation for why they're meaningfully descriptive of an applicants risk profile :)
Plus, women want equal rights, so why not be equal in this, too?
I think for things like insurance, or healthcare taxes (the model adopted by most countries) it's fair to normalize the price for everyone. Otherwise, the system doesn't really work.
It is not fair to normalize the price. It penalizes people who are healthy and good drivers (for example not smoking and speeding).
It's interesting that insurance premiums can act as behavioral incentives in some cases, but I doubt it has ever led someone to change their gender or race.
For example, the price of bond insurance is not normalized between bonds with different ratings.
Supposing this price discovery were perfect, customers who make a claim would have already paid premiums equal to the claim, and customers who never make a claim would pay nothing (plus fees in each case). This aspect of insurance obviously serves no core purpose. The purposeless of it is just hidden in the noise of uncertainty, and we see pricing differences emerge out of the uncertainty.
The actual purpose is to blunt the effect of catastrophic losses by spreading a smaller burden across a larger population. One caveat is that insurance can sometimes have the effect of "rewarding" risky behavior and "punishing" cautious behavior. Now, it's interesting that price differences can sometimes balance that by reversing the punishment/reward incentives, but only if prices are based on risk factors that the customer can actually control.
My male Montana cousins always had slightly cheaper insurance than I did, but my female Montana cousins more than made up for it.