Why bother, err on the side of caution with pedestrians. The driver is already benefiting from auto pilot, a minor delay due to safety of other road users would be acceptable to most.
Exactly. If you bump into the car in front, because they stopped for a percieved hazard, it is your fault for tailgaiting, not their fault for percieving a hazard.
I generally not a fan of social darwinism, but in this specific case, I think that something of the sort will have a positive effect. How many people have been injured because the car they were hit by was being forced to go faster, because of tailgaiting?
If a self driving car doesn't reproduce the most common driving style the other drivers should be extra careful around it, some kind of mark on the outside could help.
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