I agree the tesla system is pretty bad, but software needs to be updatable. How many exploits do you think your 2005 land rover has?
I mean, if an attacker has physical access to the insides of your car, all bets are off and is now his vehicle.
I mean, I take your general point, but I'm almost certain that 99.9% of people breaking into cars do it to steal them, not to install a virus that will track your location or make your car crash. Both of those can be achieved trivially without even opening the car.
Remember it's not just the internet that makes you susceptible, it's any network.