DSLRs, pro ones especially, have enormously sophisiticated control systems... There are a huge number of ways I can influence what descions the autofocus system makes
If anything, the control system in my m43 camera is more sophisticated. And the autofocus is a big part of that. Similar to many cell phones, my m43 camera has a touch screen that allows me to tap the part of the scene I'd like it to use for focusing. This is a better system than any DSLR I've used. I doubt that in autopilot it would pick the wingtip: because it's in motion it's likely to be less sharp than, say, the head.
Regarding the lag in the EVF, it's certainly noticeable. But I don't see that as a problem in this use case. My experience with capturing moving subjects is that you don't even try to get that one single perfect shot. Instead you're going to be in high-speed shooting mode, grabbing many images of the scene over at least a second or so, in order to pick the best of the set. In this case, the frame rate really is important.
Finally, there's a real advantage to a mirrorless camera for the landscape work I usually do. A lot of the shots I'm looking for are long exposures where it's imperative for the camera to be absolutely still (and I've found that your approach shouldn't be "use a tripod when necessary", but instead "always use a tripod unless it's impractical to do so"). Even the internal operations of the camera can introduce unwanted vibrations. Most DSLRs (unfortunately my DSLR is not one of these) allow you lock up the mirror, which is the largest offender, but that precludes use of the optical viewfinder. But even farther, my mirrorless m43 also allows switching to full-electronic shutter, so there's nothing mechanical at all to shake the camera; I'm not aware of any DSLR that has such a mode, although there may be something out there.