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Yeah, some people are nice just because they think they have to in order to be close to likeable. Truth is, most of those would love to be assholes if they could get away with it. I've been like that. Probably still is, just to a lesser extent.

Being authentically nice requires a lot of deep-seated confidence. It's hard to care too much about others if you're constantly worrying about yourself.

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I'm not sure about confidence. I have very minimal confidence in myself, but as a consequence I care very little about myself and much more about others. Seems to have a similar result though; people perceive me as confident (and regularly tell me so) and I laugh a bit about it on the inside. I have no idea what I'm doing and I'm not good at anything, but that seems to work :p.

I don't believe in myself, but I believe in others who believe in me and that seems to be okay lol.

It was easier for me to be nice to everyone once I realized that they and their loved ones are all going to die one day. Puts things in perspective.

I pretty much do the opposite. I remember that everyone was a child once and some, unfortunately, still are. Basically attributing annoyances/disagreements to ignorance/differing values rather than malice.

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