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< I divorced my husband,

In my county, the number one (by far) reason people are homeless is because of divorce.

Marriage is a commitment and the second biggest choice one (usually) has to make.

There are probably no greater predictors of success than a stable marriage and delaying children. I know people like to roll their eyes when conservatives talk about this stuff, but shouldn't we try to increase focus on the two greatest predictors of success?

Is encouraging people who wouldn't otherwise get married to get married going to produce stable marriages? I would imagine that it would produce more of the other kind.

What percentage of 16-year-olds understand that who they marry and when they have children are the greatest predictors of their success? Can we increase that number?

This isn't about getting Tommy to marry Jane. It's about a more general cultural education.

Well, the global arranged marriage divorce rate is well under 10%.

Probably says more about the cultural acceptance of divorce in cultures that have arranged marriages than it does about the success of arranged marriages.

If you get married, and the marriage falls apart, it's because of your personal failings. If you don't get married, and your life falls apart, it's because you didn't get married.

Either way, if you want to be successful, clearly you should get married!

I think you underestimate the advantages of marriage for people living on the margins. I suppose my suggestion sounds quaint, to some. But a partner in the struggle makes a life-altering difference to marginalized people.

So, yes, I think we should better educate children about the importance of this decision.

It does not have to be a marriage. Living with a good roommate could be a good substitute.

But she failed to find a good roommate too.

You'll never know. Your partner can turn out to be damaging. Life is chaotic.

What's the first biggest one?

Getting children?

Yes. If you have a child and how you rear him or her.

Which PokemonGo team to be on. /s They probably mean having children if I had to guess.

Team vi or Team Emacs.

PC or Console

Eat out for cook in for dinner.

I'm guessing whether to end their life or not.

Career choice I suppose.

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