Ask HN: I've grown to hate my colleagues
It's something new. I'm lucky to have it especially when most people look at my development career and not my aspirations.
On my first day, barely a soul spoke to me. I wasn't always a chatty guy but I figured with this role being what it is, I needed to do the opposite of what I'd normally do. Instead of sitting at my new desk and eating my lunch, I ventured into the lunchroom.
"Hey, how's it going?", I said to the Project Manager eating her lunch.
I get a soft whisper. I guess that means "ok".
crickets
Ok, I'm the new guy. Maybe she's the shy sort.
Lunchroom laughter and long coffee breaks.
Maybe I'm just making a mountain out of a molehill. It doesn't matter. I get along with the two bosses pretty well and that's enough.
Today I transferred a call to another developer. He yelled at me and told me that next time I should "shut up". Apparently he was in the middle of something at the time. He then answered the call, put the phone down and walked out for the routine morning coffee.
I've been in the IT game for a decade now and I've snapped at others but often it was in the form of an agitated response. Maybe a furrow browed "Yes?" or "What!?".
Now this is an open plan office so the boss heard all of this. He simply utters: "Well how were we supposed to know you were busy?". That's the end of it. Nothing more than that. I received no apology and the day went on as normal like nothing happened.
Maybe this is a rant. Maybe this is my attempt to understand whether others in the community have felt this way before or been through a similar situation. I don't know what to do. I want this job and I've only been here for two and half months. I don't want to quit and explain what happened but I don't want to work in an environment where I find more pleasure talking to clients than the people sitting next to me.