Good post. Everyone on HN should remember that even if you
are lucky enough to work as an early employee for a startup that got acquired, you shouldn't expect anything. That makes the normal tradeoff that's asked of early startup employees make even
less sense than it already made (no sense).
It seems the real way to get a payday is to bootstrap a consultancy, build it up over a few years, and save your money. Eventually, you can transition to a product company if you're still interested in that. This is what Fog Creek, 37Signals, and several other prominent companies did.
You can do stuff your way, on your terms, and make products the way you want without meddling VCs jumping down your throat. You can get paid as quickly as you can get clients and no one will be yelling at you for paying yourself more than $50k or working less than 70 hours per week.
I would implore all the devs currently in the startup rat race in SV to consider this as a reasonable alternative option. The people who get mind-blowingly rich in these transactions are primarily the investors, sometimes the founders, and only exceptionally rarely any of the employees.