I also remember some school director warning me about my behavior and telling me that humans are a social species.
The Susan McCain book really opened my eyes, in the end, to me it really seems to be a matter of values.
It's crazy because this issue makes me pretty angry. I failed 2 degrees because the score coefficients in teamwork projects were pretty high, not to mention being targeted and harassed in school because you're calm and silent most of the time.
Also I listened to some NPR podcast who talked about personality being a myth.
Basically we moved from recognizing that race and gender are bad biases, but we have new ones now.