I imagine they would say that your statement about crashing vs. e.g. launching the missiles is a false dilemma. You don't crash and you don't incorrectly launch the missiles.
I'm not a C++ developer so I can't say it with certainty. I more agree with what you're saying. I'm just relaying that my experience has been that out of many different language communities, C++ actually seems adamantly the opposite of what you're describing.