As a teen I read a book by Robert Anton Wilson that made an interesting point. We have experiments showing wave-like and particular-like behavior but all we have is that data and we can accept it at face value without having to impose the idea of a wave or a particle on it. "Waves" and "particles" are, like you say, analogies.
There's no particular reason the phenomena can't behave like both, and, in fact, they do. It's only a paradox if we choose to analogize. We don't have to.
As Korzybski said "the map is not the territory." Trying to resolve wave/particle duality is trying to impose one of two maps from other territories to a new one.