I own a shit ton of domains

Well, you're the expert. Who am I to argue with anybody who owns a "shit ton" of domains?

     As someone whose domestic partner ...has had numerous
     death threats

OK, on this, I'd say you're a liar. Anybody actually in that situation, I guarantee, would understand perfectly why anonymity on the net is often considered important to people. You are either a complete dolt, or a liar (or both, I suppose)

I enjoy the convenience DH offers me in keeping my name out of Google. My reasons have nothing to do with whether or not my sites are sleezy. They're not. Privacy for myself and my family is not something I should need to justify to some random git (look it up) on HN.