I am very saddened to announce that I am quitting Tor
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Remember when we shot Brendan Eich and replaced him with a marketing dude and then wondered why Firefox is suddenly driven by marketing decisions?
The boundaries are pretty(I say pretty, because even here countries opinions differ) clear on what physical rape is, but the boundaries on what is considered harassment in a global world are EXTREMELY blurry. Don't ever forget that.
And before you start shouting that I'm defending Jake, I'm not, I don't even like the guy.
It's the same reason Yarvin can't run a technical organization -- not because he's not technically competent (he isn't, but that's a different conversation), but because he can't help himself from flaunting his violent racism and undermining whatever it is that he's involved in. If he could manage to turn off his bigotry faucet, maybe he could be trusted to run an actual project. Probably not.
Don't blame an increasingly inclusive and considerate culture for the continued incompetence of a bigoted few. It's not hard to do good technical work, but apparently it's quite difficult for these particular white men to manage without funding/advocating/practicing bigotry and sexism. That's on them, and every time you feel oppressed by "political correctness" a dozen or more people are feeling like they can participate safely for the first time.
So you oppress hundreds and thousands for their personal beliefs in exchange for a dozen or more people to feel better? This isn't my idea of freedom.
What we really need next is political diversity: Companies should be required to hire people with diverse political opinions.
It would never happen because it doesn't extend and enhance the left-leaning narratives that are destroying society with emotion, mob-rule, bullying, and lies and completely disregarding statistics and facts.
"It's not hard to do good technical work, but apparently it's quite difficult for these particular white men to manage without funding/advocating/practicing bigotry and sexism"
Eich isn't sexist nor a bigot. Just because you don't agree with gay marriage doesn't mean you hate all gays and/or are bigoted towards them. I find it ironic that you have prejudice against an entire group of people while at the same time making the argument that we need to be less prejudice.
I also remember reading Facebook during this time: The amount of bigoted comments and bullying toward anyone religious was astounding..and nobody lost their job over it.
It's because it's not really about freedom, it's about taking power and control and oppressing another group of people.
Don't confuse political correctness with tolerance. You might feel its more inclusive, but everyone still has a bias, even if its unconscious.
I'll think less of you if you believe in a religion, but I won't treat you differently outwardly for it.
EDIT: Also, I'm old school. I might not agree with you, but I will protect your right to free speech to the death, no matter how abhorrent it is (again, I do not have to agree with you to protect your rights). We are judged how we defend other's rights when we're in violent disagreement with them.
I am also intensely pro-free speech. As a concrete example, I am in favor of the right of people to discuss their displeasure with someone's (freely!) stated views, and to use that speech to encourage organizations to not give a platform to views they find abhorrent.
You don't want to take the pitchforks from one group, and hand them to the other.
You talk pretty big ("I will protect your right to free speech to the death"!), but it's quite clear that you wont't actually defend anyone's right to free speech (unless they're discussing their own bigotry, in which case apparently we aren't permitted to freely speak against them).
EDIT: A simpler way to put it might be that the decisions you make regarding whose free speech you defend are obviously colored by your own unconscious bias.
It's willfully naive to think that witch hunts will remove the bias you seek to remove.
There's no way you can reasonably tie Eich's views on gay marriage to his being a white man, so I'm having a hard time figuring out why you mentioned his race or gender. Among white men, prop 8. barely won, 51% to 49%. Among blacks, it won 70% to 30% (62% to 37% for black men, 75% to 25% for black women). Latinos were 53% to 47%, with men 2% higher than women. It lost among asians, 49% to 51%. I have not seen a breakdown of asians by gender. Supporting prop 8. was not a "white man" position.
(Some other breakdowns of the vote are also quite interesting. In the $30-75k and in $100-150k groups it won, 54% to 46%. In $75-100k it was 50/50. In the below $30k and the above $150k groups it lost, 47% to 52% and 46% to 54%, respectively. It won every age group over 30, and lost every age group under 30. It won about 65% to 35% among Christians, lost 33% to 67% among Jews/other, and lost 10% to 90% among those who say they have no religion. Among Christians it won, 84% to 16% among those who attend Church weekly, and lost 46% to 54% among those who attend occasionally, and lost 17% to 83% among those who never attend Church).
Basically, multiple women accused Jake Applebaum, a big shot in the Tor community, of sexually assaulting them, and his ex-girlfriend (the OP) was made into a pariah for defending him. For what it's worth, if the accusations are true, it's not improbable that he would've refrained from being an ass to his ex-girlfriend. Brock Turner, the Stanford rapist, has a female friend who wrote a moving testimony to what a great friend he was.
That's not what she says: "Still, I do have a weird feeling about many of these stories because they contain facts I know are wrong"
Remember that time a couple people accused Appelbaum of sexually harrassing a woman, and then she said that's not what happened at all? Yeah.
The sad thing is that I'm fairly confident that most of the stories are true. But they're mixed in with some real garbage from people who hate Jake for weird reasons, which makes them seem less credible. Awful tactics.
[2nd edit] For balance: https://ourresponse.org/
EDIT since I'm blocked from further commenting:
Not only are we as tech industry members told to believe all accusations (made by the "right" person) regardless of the lack of evidence. We are _encouraged_ to witch hunt the targets of these attacks and proactively destroy their lives. If we don't, we're labeled regressive. If we speak up and question the validity of the claims we're called all manner of X-ist labels.
The courts exist for a reason, they can deal with punishing those who break the law. In most of the cases what we're seeing is fully legal activity being run through a kangaroo court of public opinion spearheaded by ideologs on social media.
Scary times, but I'll continue to voice resistance on sites like this despite the inevitable wave of downvoting and semi-occasional censoring.
Of course you wouldn't, so stop using criminal law as your standard for identifying when someone's a bad hat.
Not hanging out with someone because you don't trust them? Fine.
Publicly assassinating someone's reputation with no evidence, chance for rebuttal or formal hearing? Bogus.
I have no idea what this is all about but it seems like high school drama and a total waste of time. If I'm missing something here I would like to be educated as well..
I don't know what to think of the entire situation. But undoubtedly everyone involved and the Tor project is significantly damaged by the affair.
Appelbaum either: (1) engaged in wrongdoing, or (2) let personal and professional relationships languish to the point people wanted to sabotage him. Either way, it is a good lesson to exercise caution within such a tight-knit community.
The rest of this is the inevitable consequence of any split of this nature. FWIW I think they did the right, and the hard, thing.
If that is true, then really, that is one of the more devious uses of "anonymous" accusation followed by an "independent" investigation and "impartial" decision that I have ever seen. Would it be socially accepted if it was publicly known that the same person was an accuser, a investigator and a judge at the same time?
>To be clear I believe Jake has hurt people (which he has admitted himself) and didn't respect people's boundaries. I do not believe he is a rapist or a harasser and I am wondering what the people who started this campaign are trying to achieve.
Admitting he's abusive and ignores boundaries while at the same time saying that behavior isn't harassing or rape is some Grade A dissonance. There wasn't some conspiracy. This woman even admits the guy hurts people and disrespects boundaries. The fact she doesn't have specific details about a rape or other harassment is irrelevant.
She knows the guy has hurt others, and then thinks there is a campaign allied against him?
I'd want any person like she describes removed from any communities I belong to, and not surprised the Tor Project decided the same.
That depends entirely on what she means by "ignores boundaries".
Disrespecting boundaries and being abusive are the same. What boundaries differentiates between emotional and physical abuse, and in some cases between whether the abuse is merely an ethical issue or actually a legal issue, as well.