I last used MongoDB seriously in 2012-2015. We had myriad operations problems including inconsistent indexing across shards (where some shards had an index created and others didn't, it was baffling), issues with the balancer not moving chunks properly, and more. Also it's just different than other DBs with its lack of transactional consistency (I think they've made progress on building this), but that's part of why it's fast.
However, the bigger problem is that document databases -- in general -- enable a kind of software development where the model sort of emerges over time, rather than being carefully designed from the beginning. Yes, it's flexible, but you pay an absolutely enormous cost down the line dealing with inconsistent documents. It's not like code where if you do something stupid, you can fix it over time with refactoring and "remodeling" -- data has mass. You can get into a situation where, with a large data set, it can take a week or more just to run the migration script required to scan an entire collection and rewrite a few billion documents into a new, better format.
There is no such thing as a "schemaless" database. That's like saying, oh sure, we just have a bunch of 1s and 0s in memory -- our data is "structureless". The question is whether the database enforces the schema, or not. And I think that in a lot of cases, it's a lot worse to have an "uncodified schema" than a rigid, but at least well-defined, one, that's consistent across the data at all points.
Sidenote: It's also occurred to me over the past few years that it's almost impossible to impose a consistent schema on a large enough dataset. If you truly are dealing with "big data" (TB/PB scale) maybe go straight to the document store of columnar because doing a migration is outright impossible, but don't be so quick to write it off for GB-scale datasets.
We had more problems with sharding over the years than you could imagine...the distributed locking mechanism didn't work a lot of the time, the balancer didn't work, weird consistency issues between the config servers, configuration that didn't get replicated across all shards, stupid shard key selection (admittedly our fault but there really should be better guidance on this topic), etc.
+1. I agree that NoSql promotes "careless db design" to an extent.
But yes (as an example) situations do arise where you either need to alter the existing SQL table with bazillions of rows of data in it or refactor your design in an ugly-ass way by adding a 2-column table tied to the 1st table by some FK.
So we have to rely to some extent on the experience of others and our own intuitions / less than perfect inferences.
A challenge there is determining whether it makes sense to massage the data into a common schema for further analysis or to use an unstructured initial approach from the beginning. Sometimes you get to the former from the latter.
Instead it should be marketed as "good database for dynamic data that requires complex filtering, also we have very good drivers for many languages" because that's the only thing it's good at.
Still, I can't see a situation where I would choose a non-working datastore over a working datastore.
It's like they wanted to be all three but couldn't quite commit to one, and the end result is the proverbial "tankicopter" that's neither as strong as a tank, nor as maneuverable as a helicopter.