I've been on psychiatrist-prescribed meds for a little over two years now. I've gotten a better job, my salary has increased by 52%, I live with less stress, I have a (mostly) tidy home, I am no longer dependent on alcohol, I care for a wonderful dog, I am cultivating healthy relationships and friendships, and I am more involved in my community.
I've also been seeing a cognitive-behavioral therapist for about three years to work through anxiety, depression, gender identity, and trauma from several childhood sexual assaults.
But maybe I don't count, because I'm not a 'guy' :) but I'm doing absolutely fucking amazing, thank you very much.
If you go off your HIV meds you get AIDS and die. If you stay on your HIV meds you have a life expectancy is similar to someone who does not have the virus. (1)
Do you then conclude HIV meds are bad? Or HIV patients need to just suck it up?
(1) http://www.spectator.co.uk/2014/04/why-id-rather-have-hiv-th...
But you don't really care about that. Or any valid piece of evidence that disputes your already-formed opinion.
I used to be really against psychiatry too. Had docs in high school that didn't ask the right questions. Got misdiagnosed. Spent my 20s a shambling (semi-functional, but shambling) mess.
I'm privileged that I'm able to afford my mental healthcare team (neither of them take insurance). I wish access to quality mental health professionals was more easy to obtain. It's a double edged sword- the practice has a hard time recruiting, and health insurance is often pretty terrible for it. So many people who would benefit from a mental health provider cannot / will not get it.
"But as soon as I take off the glasses...?"
There are plenty of people who are doing very well on psych meds.
The field is probably a bit too 'medication' heavy, I'll grant you that, but perfect is, as they said, is the enemy of the good.
Psychiatric drugs are great in the same way crutches are great: they let you "take the weight off" the problem, so you can work on the other parts of it. SSRIs let depressed people make it to their CBT therapy appointments. ADHD medications let unmotivated people get a job doing something they're passionate about. Anxiolytics let people make friends to attend social gatherings with. Etc.
"Show me a guy in an iron lung and I'll believe you."
Sometimes, unfortunately, the best outcome of treatment is simply to keep things tolerably bad.
I have taken a stable dose of lithium tricarbonate for many, many, many moons (my whole adult life really, 15+ years) now. I have to have quarterly blood panels to know that my actual levels haven't fluctuated, but otherwise it really fixed me up.