Physics has a lot of data and several models that work really well, but they don't really fit into a single coherent system. QM vs Relativity etc. The density needed to form a black hole decreases linearly with radius, sho why is the universe not one?
I feel like this explains it pretty well.
https://medium.com/starts-with-a-bang/ask-ethan-50-why-didnt...
tl;dr: Schwarzschild’s solution is a static one, meaning that the metric of space does not evolve as time progresses.
Of course verifying this probably requires that we inspect most of our universe directly...
So would universes come in existance with varying degrees of stability. No one has to say 'this is a stable universe'. We can say 'this universe has been stable for quite a long while'. Long enough to spawn us and the very interesting universe around us.
Just like in biology, merely the fact that we could be here, is the reason we're here.
Of course, that's assuming that for some reason big bangs with varying values for universal constants are a constant occurrence. Unfortunately, this is not likely to be something we're ever going to be able to measure/observe. Though there are/have been (theoretical) experiments to see if universal constants really are constant. If they're not, that would be a nice indicator that the universe really is unstable enough to create stability.
It's actually quite a neat concept, if very similar to the anthropic principle. Unfortunately, it offers no predictions.
New child universes are spawned with new values for various constants. Stable arrangements (combinations) persist, spawning new grandchildren universes. Unstable arrangements blink out of existence.
Edit: I want to apologize for volunteering an answer to the question of how natural selection might work at a cosmic level with some speculation I've read. I regret the error.