I guess another way to put this is... I'm more interested in finding the solution than I am in making sure that everyone around me thinks that my domain is special and complex and that they don't share it with me.
[1] For those not following, Google 'rubber duck debugging'. Colleagues are the best rubber ducks.
I see this "Can you just..." business similar to the advice that you just stop working on the problem that you can't solve and think about something else for a while. Take a nap, go for a walk, have a drink. Wait until tomorrow. Often times the problem isn't that the problem is difficult to solve or that it's complex (it is), but rather that you are too mired in it to come up with the solution. "Can you just... " suggestions often pull me out of the trees so I can see the forest.
I'm basically a marketer and I work with a lot of programmers who just finished school. We're building websites. I have really basic programming experience.
Sometimes a feature request comes in but without enough budget to really do it the right way.
So I have come up with logical workarounds after the programmers said it couldn't be done. And these instances have not caused any conflict.
Like for example, instead of making a huge slow product database, I built a huge list of URLs and then they parsed the product number in it, and output the tech specs to the page. The mfr's product numbers were encoding the tech specs.
That said, I also see people up the ladder flinging "justs" left and right and causing immense failure and suffering.