An other reason, maybe category theory isn't that useful? I'm just speculating here as I have only basic knowledge of category theory, maybe someone else can enlighten us! While all the maths taught at undergraduate level are extremely useful and pervasive in all areas of science, I'm still unsure about category theory. It's certainly nice and elegant as it allows us to reframe different theories and definitions in a same context, but is it useful for an engineer or an applied mathematician?
Also you're quite right that category theory only really starts to make sense when you have a big stock of examples, like "group theory" and "poset theory" and "topology" and "set theory". Once you've got those examples, you can detect these common threads between them and call them "category theory".
Nullable (in the C# sense) does not form a monad, because it does not form a functor, because you cannot write fmap, because it does not nest.