But I really do just want to know if my ideas hold water or not, and if not why not.
For example the time dilation on black holes fits every description of black holes I've ever seen.
Gravitational potential energy of stars being significant makes sense to me - after all the farther from the center, the higher the "apparent" mass of the star (as seen in its orbit), which matches well with the potential energy also being higher when it's farther. Is it not enough maybe?
The biggest problem with your ideas is that we already have numerous lines of evidence that dark matter and regular matter can become separated, and that would seem to be something that directly challenges your hypothesis.
I think the majority of people try to be generous and give the benefit of the doubt, but I'm a physics grad and even after a lot of thought I'm not sure what you're saying. It's hard to give informed criticism in that case but easy to downvote and move on.
Yes.
> it's still ridiculous because the event horizon would exist anyway so the effect will be the same.
How would exist? It would only form after infinite time - time dilates as a function of how close it is to a black hole (i.e. you don't have to already be a black hole to dilate time), reaching infinity as it forms the event horizon.
> I think the majority of people try to be generous and give the benefit of the doubt, but I'm a physics grad and even after a lot of thought I'm not sure what you're saying. It's hard to give informed criticism in that case but easy to downvote and move on.
Thanks for the reply. If I gain nothing else except an understanding of how a black hole can ever form the downvotes would be well worth it. As best as I can understand it can't form, yet everyone just seems to implicitly believe it can.
The rest I just kind of threw out there to see what criticism I would get (none as of this writing, just some insults), but the black hole one really bothers me because that one is grounded in ordinary, orthodox, descriptions of black holes.
Every description describes them as matter caught falling in infinitely slowly, yet simultaneously say matter actually falls in and somehow forms a black hole. It's a contradiction - I can't be the only person in the entire world to see that.
http://physics.stackexchange.com/questions/21319/how-can-any...
So as far as that goes you're right. What this doesn't mean is that black holes don't exist in any reference frame. The simple test is to jump into the black hole. Time dilation won't affect you, you're in a free fall after all, following your geodesic. You'll pass a well defined event horizon and pass into what is undeniably a black hole.