Sure people need to take responsibility for their own actions, but if someone is trained from birth to believe something, casting that belief aside isn't the same as dropping a piece of trash in the trash can. And those that trained that person to hold that belief share a bit of responsibility. Blaming 'society' as a whole is meaningless, though.
This contradicts your argument that society hasn't failed this woman. I'm pretty sure that cleaning up rental apartments is not what she wanted to do with her life.
We need to restructure the economy and society so that culture rules, so that the resources are made available to pay for culture and the arts-- so we can stop being an artistic and philosophical backwater-- and the uncultured profit-ideologists who've currently infected this country with their adolescent ideology and bankrupt values are utterly disempowered, instead of running the show as they are now.