Situational awareness is one of the primary tenets of aviation. It is a skill, and like any skill it can be developed and refined.

Young pilots will start out flying in their own reality, one that is completely non-representative of what is actually occurring outside. Over time the gap between what you perceive is happening and what is actually happening will narrow to the point that you can operate safely on your own.

I write this not to contradict you but to prevent your post from discouraging any would-be pilots from pursuing what can be a very personally rewarding and enriching hobby--or career.

And apologies in advance if there is some sort of diagnosed mental condition or quality at play here but ideally that is something that is picked up by FAA medical examiners before students go out and solo.