Morals and ethics can only ever be relative / subjective / personal. Moral absolutism is the root of all evil.
There are many issues which you can find common ground for a base case of moral absolutism when you are not being absurd.
Moral relativism allows you to accept the actual evil of other's actions as a product of their culture.
That is the kind of thinking that allows people to say genital mutilation is a cultural thing.
For me that's quite a line to cross.
Start fighting using non-violent means and maybe only resort to violence when confronted with violence from the other party.