It doesn't require a homosexual parent to have a homosexual kid.
It doesn't require a homosexual parent to have a homosexual kid.
Recessive alleles aren't immune to natural selection. It's just harder to purge them because they get exposed as phenotypes less often. As they become rarer and rarer (it'll manifest as a phenotype as the square of its frequency), selection weakens. Homosexuality, however, is common enough and the fitness penalty large enough that any recessives are exposed to a lot of selection, so it should be disappearing fast, but it isn't, which raises a lot of questions of what exactly causes homosexuality.
One hypothesis that seems to be fairly strong is that homosexuality is, essentially, just one manifestation of the broad altruism strategy.
Think about what makes altruism in general persist, despite it been seemingly harmful for its carriers long-term: they might not maximize the likelihood of survival of their own progeny, but in sacrificing that, they increase the likelihood of survival of progeny of people from the same family, tribe or larger community - which have a certain amount of shared genes. If you think of the natural selection game as fundamentally centered on the genes rather than their carriers ("selfish gene" etc), this strategy makes perfect sense - your altruism may result in a lot more people surviving and carrying genes shared with you, and down the line, the end result is that population in the future will be genetically more common with you than it has been otherwise - so your genes "win". If so, the tradeoff is in favor of altruism over selfishness, and altruism becomes a selected trait.
Now, homosexuality can be seen as an extreme example of that. Every homosexual pair that adopts children (and there are a lot!) is, essentially, forgoing spreading their genes directly, and spending the effort that would normally go into that on the genes of some other person. Now, in this day and age, children often get adopted across large distances; but historically, and obviously in nature, adoption would be from geographically and genetically close populations; so it's a form of altruism that can be favored by natural selection. If you unwind back even further, before family was a thing, any tribe members that don't have children of their own have more time to spend watching, feeding and protecting others' children.
Now, you might wonder, why homosexuality rather than asexuality, since the latter would produce the same result? Evolution, due to the mechanisms that drive it, generally takes the path of the least resistance at any given point, even if it results in a very long-winded trek long-term. And it's simpler, from an evolutionary perspective, to "neutralize" the sexual drive by changing its target, than it is to switch it off completely. On top of that, there are some benefits other than children to be derived from sexuality in social species - bonding and mutual assistance, facilitating communication (as e.g. bonobos often use sex) etc.
Now that this pressure is gone, we could see a huge drop in these traits over the next few centuries.
But that is separate from whether or not pressure from relatives to reproduce can be used as a mitigating strategy for the cases where these genes do result in someone being gay. And this strategy, then, would lower the amount of fitness those genes would need to provide to be viable.
That's not true. There's a number of ways variants can exist without being fit. They can be regularly created by mutation, or they can increase due to genetic drift, especially in a bottleneck scenario. And there's even more ways that a phenotype can persist while being highly unfit - if it's a side-effect of a co-evolving pathogen, being one of them, as then the human natural selection is constantly fighting it but the pathogen easily evolves even faster.
Sorry, off topic :)
Poor eyesight has no adaptive benefit. Yet many, many people need glasses. I guess it's just 'difficult' for our genes to grow a sharp eye focusing system, so they often get it wrong.
The same may be true of homosexuality. So even if there's nothing adaptive about being gay, it keeps happening because sexual tuning in the brain is a hard target to hit.
Homophobia may be an adaptation to this. It makes parents force their children to act straight even if they're gay.
Many people... in particular industrializing countries. Our genes have a great sharp eye focusing system. You won't find much myopia in a random tribe.
http://www.scientificamerican.com/article/is-a-pregnant-woma...
Of course, there's also the strong possibility that it isn't purely genetic but a mix of certain genes, which may be linked to other important traits, with a certain environment (possibly even in utero).
That's a steep hill to climb.
For example the gay person becomes a village healer and can spent time on that precisely because he/she doesn't have own children to look after.