Do you use a Dapper extension for populating and persisting entities? (Last I looked at it as I recall this wasn't default functionality.)
That someone would say "Dapper is all they need" leads me to think they only work on very small projects. You will drown in large projects if you use Dapper everywhere. Better to use a high level ORM like EntityFramework and sprinkle in some Dapper in performance critical code.
The only time EF creates performance problems is when the developer doesn't understand the concepts behind SQL. This isn't an ORM problem, it's a training problem.
And, I don't use dapper for performance, I actually like its transparency and friction free interface to the db. Let's me get things done without workarounds. And most importantly, lets me use ssms with a repl flow, copying sql verbatim between vs and ssms.