> It's annoying when you try to change the shared language, which is convention-based, to reinforce your opinions.
I disagree.
> It's usually called "name-calling"
Well, no, it's not. While that might be the case sometimes, it's not necessarily so, and in particular it's obviously not the case in the case we're discussing here.
> Trying to shape the language to try to reinforce specific views of reality is always very very suspicious.
I disagree. And I disagree for a very simple reason: More often than not the existing usage is not neutral in the first place, it just happens to have been first (and sometimes not even that), and that's not always just an accident either. So, the existing usage is as suspicious as the attempt to change it, which is why the appropriate response in my opinion is to take the opportunity when someone suggests a new convention to examine whether the existing one is maybe more suspicious than what is being proposed.
> Well, whether they do or not is up to them. It's the principle of democracy, liberalism and tolerance: people are entitled to decide, entirely subjectively, what's best for them, as long as it doesn't damage others.
Well ... no. Or at least, that's besides the point.
People are entitled to decide what they prefer, but people are not entitled to decide how reality works. So, people are entitled to decide that they want to smoke, to take a random example. But people are not entitled to decide that they want to smoke and not die early due to side effects from smoking. They might wish that it were so, but smoking objectively comes with certain health risks, and you have to decide either for smoking with these risks or no smoking without the risks.
Now, some smoker might not know about the health risks of smoking and therefore put a positive value on smoking, while at the same time valueing the health risks that objectively come with smoking negatively with a greater magnitude than the value they put on smoking. It would be completely besides the point to argue against that by saying that it's a principle of democracy that they are entitled to continue smoking. Sure they are. But it's an empirical fact that once it was established public knowledge that smoking is bad for your health, many people adjusted their valuation of smoking to a negative value and quit.
Also, it isn't even so clear whether the use of Facebook isn't damaging others. Facebook has a network effect, which in economists' terms is in the category of externalities. In so far as network effects of proprietary systems tend towards creation of a monopoly and thus slowing of innovation and many other abuses that monopolies tend towards, there probably are negative externalities--or in other words: damage to others.