I've heard the saying "California would be great if it wasn't for the people" in literally every state I've spent significant time in when they find out that I lived in the Bay.
Just curious: if you work in the tech industry, is your impression that the tech industry in CA is populated mostly by people who came from outside the state?
Sure, there are significant cultural and political deltas, but I think a lot of the disgust for Californians moving to other states is just the simple fact that people generally don't like change in the form of "outsiders" flooding "their" state and threatening the status quo.
Texas on the other hand is hot and flat. Really boring here. Oh and it's too crowded. Yep, if you're from California Texas is worse. Don't want to move here. Please stop moving here, please, oh god please.
BTW, there is also a vibrant live music scene. And also a lot of theater and art. Did I mention the food?
The only thing I would say Texas lacks are good beaches. We do have a lot of rivers/lakes though. But for someone who grew up near the ocean...it does suck.
I don't think anyone would want to spend time in a typical CA prison or jail. Overcrowding, violence, gangs, insufficient medical care, etc.
LA County has had some well publicized problems with sheriff's department guards severely beating handcuffed inmates. It's probably not a place you want to visit.
Parts of the state have (what I consider) perfect weather year round; access to the beach and mountains to ski/snowboard, tons of other outdoor activities, etc. You can find most of these in other places, of course, but CA is pretty unique in that it's all in the same state, and easily accessible.
The problem you describe does not get enough attention. The state and local governments have seriously mismanaged growth over the last half a century or so. The individual person's quality of life has truly been diminished in the way you describe.
I grew up (and my parents live) near San Luis Obispo, CA. The central coast has: pockets of perfect weather, proximity to wonderful beaches, proximity to winte rsports, etc. Yet, there's under a quarter of a million people in their gigantic county, and a small apartment or house can be found for a (fairly) reasonable price in parts of the area. SLO even has a fantastic university and a bit of tech has sprung up around it (Amazon has SWE offices, etc).
Much like people who don't live on the coast harp on, there's much more to CA than the popular few cities.