I wanted to like this article, but I feel that it focuses too much on "winning" and "losing" - building software is (mostly) a creative task, and (I think that) treating it like a series of wins and losses can be a dangerous mentality to start off with.

Finding a creative equilibrium between two ideas is the key to forming the right amount of "creative abrasion", but walking away from every discussion feeling like you won or lost is not going to get you there.

If you're arguing about smaller or inconsequential things like tabs vs. spaces or other stylistic items, you need to spend some time and document guidelines, which should be enforced equally on everyone. This saves tons of time down the line, and eliminates a lot (but, of course, not all) of these problems.