Choice means interoperability, not picking between walled gardens.
Somehow people recognize that illusion of choice when talking about Facebook, but fail to recognize it here? Weird.
She can text me, but when I or anybody else On an iPhone try to text her it goes to iMessage and she never receives it.
Yes this is "just a bug", but it also seriously promotes lock-in. It's a very strategic bug, and if she hadn't bought a new phone she would probably be back on iMessage.
iMessage is not always a choice, sometimes it's for life whether you wanted it to be or not.
"This word that doesn't mean this other word means this other word."
What?
This is a massive unsolved problem.