Honestly if I go to your website to read some "news" or whatever, and you ask me for money or to enable ads or-else you won't show me content. I'll just close your window and never come back.
>> "Give me relevant ads that don't spy on me and that are not benchmarking my CPU every-time they load a piece of JS and we'll be fine."
Isn't this giving you EXACTLY what you're asking for? You donate a very small amount of money nautically by reading content you block the ads on.
Since creating quality content is the part that's difficult and expensive, it stands to reason that it's the part that should be monetized. It's really an accident of history that content creation was able to be subsidized by advertising or charging for distribution.
This is the same reason Microsoft has historically been pretty lax about going after home users who pirate Windows; those users make Windows a more attractive market for software publishers, which in turn draws more users.