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Strange. I had the opposite experience.

I made more friends in NYC in 2 years than real friends in SF in 4. That's not to blame people, because hey, it takes two to tango and my behavior sabotaged my own success. But even though I am in tech, I still never felt comfortable in the monoculture of SF than while in NY.

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Interesting data point - thanks for sharing.

Tell me more: how did you meet and make friends in NYC?

In SF - I find there's a more intimate social scene -- more dinner parties than bar nights, so easier to have meaningful interactions. Maybe I'm just seeing the product of my own growing up...

I haven't been invited to any dinner parties with strangers to become friends with. My existing friends invite me to dinner parties.

Wondering too, how did you make friends in NYC? I'm finding it difficult.

One of the best methods is recreational, organized sports. One good example is ZogSports. A lot of people sign up alone and I think the team sports and group interaction really help form the bonds early.

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