I agree. For me, the red flag was when the coworker asked him why he was so stressed. If things are working for other people, but not you, then something on your end probably needs to change. To me, it sounds like the author needs to trust his coworkers more. It's OK not to be involved in every decision. Sit back and let people own some things, and save your focus for the things you've decided to own. Everyone will be happier and more productive.