The same way millions can finish a game in Easy mode, but there are still some people that can finish it in Hard and Ultra Hard mode.
http://thewireless.co.nz/articles/the-pencilsword-on-a-plate
The same way millions can finish a game in Easy mode, but there are still some people that can finish it in Hard and Ultra Hard mode.
http://thewireless.co.nz/articles/the-pencilsword-on-a-plate
I'm the child of a single mom of 4 who made $7000 / year, and I'm the first of my extended family to graduate college and the first millionaire (my younger brother got to middle class). Luck is the way that I succeeded.
1st, being born with a high IQ helped. But, that clearly wasn't enough since I had the lowest IQ of my family. And, 40% of my gifted class didn't even graduate high school.
2nd, being born with a personable and friendly demeanor helped a lot, probably more than my intelligence. However, by having intelligence, I was better able to make good choices of friends.
3rd, being born with height potential was huge. It's been clear to me that people in powerful positions are much taller than average.
4th, being born with symmetric features and attractiveness was important. Again, this attribute helps in making and keeping relationships. And, when people think of someone, they often think of me first.
5th, being cautious and risk adverse was hugely important. I was involved with the gangs and criminal activity like many of my peers, but I was extremely careful about what things that I would do. Also, many of my peers ended up having kids in their teens, which was very devastating. Many became addicted to drugs and died. Many died of accidents and suicide. Of my friends, over 15 died before I was 25 (I lost count).
6th, having a mentor was good for me in making good life choices. A retired, highly educated engineer took me under her wing and mentored me in my late teens. Before I met her, I had not even considered going to college. I looked forward to being a manager at a retail store. Even though I was in the honors and gifted program and ranked #11 out of my class, I never once received any college guidance from my school. So, her help was amazingly helpful.
7th, (sorry, this is getting long), living at a time when college was affordable and accessible was critical. I went to college in the 90s when tuition was under $2500 a semester, and I was accepted with many marks on my academic record. Even though I wasted time in college, I was able to graduate with only $40k in debt.
8th, picking the right major was extremely important. I floundered around for a couple years at college and almost dropped out. Then, I had a roommate who turned me on to computers (I never had one, since they were very expensive). I took a couple programming classes and found it to be a creative outlet. And, at the time, graduates were making $30-45k, which seemed great to me.
But, looking back on it all, it was mostly luck. I wish I could say that I had some part in it, but really, I didn't.
The only very important (maybe most important) decisions that I made didn't happen until I was over 30. I moved to a wealthy area and I married up. Without doing those things, it would have been much much harder to gain access to connections and capital.
Well, you did have a good part: all the lucked wouldn't help you if you fucked it up with your attitude, behavior, etc.
It's just that the inverse is not true: having the attitude, behavior, work ethic etc is worth nothing (or very little) without the chances and luck (imagine a genius, gentle hardworking. And those are not given to the majority of poor/downtrodden people.
Also, while (1) and (2) you mention might have a lot to do with existing disposition, they're also things we work out and change/improve.
If we consider (1) and (2) totally out of control as "genetics" or environment based (e.g. chance), then well, we can't say anybody really has any qualities of their own as a person.
My question is this, ignoring your edit, if you say it was all luck based on the 8 points here, am I to conclude that anybody with these advantages would all have the same outcome no matter what they themselves did (taking into consideration the likely variability of behavior in context of your profile). If they worked their asses off, they would be no more successful than you are now and if they had just did the minimum, they'd be just as successful as you are.
I'd surmise this would not be the case so it seems likely that how hard one works, given the hand they're dealt, means a little more than you think.
Don't discount the value of the choices you made, like 1 (choosing to graduate), 2 (making good choices of friends), 4 (there's a lot one can do to improve attractiveness, like standing up straight, haircut, choosing clothes, demeanor, etc.), 5 (choosing friends), 6 (choosing to pay attention to a mentor instead of dismissing her), 7 (choosing to go to college), 8 (choosing a major).
You made a LOT of choices along your path to success. The individual details are luck, but recognizing those opportunities and taking advantage are very much a choice on your part. Life is complex, and everyone encounters lucky details that they may or may not recognize for what they are. You did.
However, it doesn't solve the problem that it's not realistic to rely on children and teens to make good decisions. That's what parents are for.
I agree that children and teens often make poor decisions. It's why the criminal justice system, for example, should be much more forgiving of them. (I know a top developer who told me he stole cars as a teen, and was arrested many times over it. He finally realized his life was doomed unless he changed his ways.)
I also remember being a teen, and watching my peers do stupid things. I knew they were being stupid, they were aware that they were f*cking up their life, but they did it anyway. I don't know that you can save people like that, but they aren't victims of fate. It was still their choice.