I went through a battery of heart tests that all turned up normal and I was diagnosed with anxiety, until years later when someone thought to test my nervous system. So yeah, I can relate.
But those heart tests even included wearing a monitor that didn't tell them anything useful other than that it was elevated at times... but not that there was a real physiological underlying cause beyond simple anxiety. Not sure they'd put any more interest in a Fitbit's data.
And yeah if it's low blood pressure-related that's hard to show them, since it changes so much and will be different in the doc's office than normal, and because there's no real way to do continuous BP monitoring the way you can with heart rate. Luckily in my case there's a simple test you can do at home or in a doctor's office to see the BP drop quickly.
The autonomic problems also cause periodic drops in blood pressure so I take a medication for that, but also have weird treatments for it like a high-salt diet and compression stockings I wear very day. I also take an ADD med for the cognitive impairment that comes along with drops in blood pressure.
I also have major on-going fatigue and gastrointestinal issues related to the autonomic problems (turns out your autonomic nervous system runs EVERYthing), and I'm about to be tested for food sensitivities to see if changing my diet might help those.
If I felt it was getting serious I’d look into a specialized device that can make it even more visible, letting me go to a doctor without awkwardness.
So far my arrhythmia seems like more or less episodical PVC though, if I interpret Wikipedia correctly. Happens reliably only during mentally / emotionally pressing moments, up to a beat every few seconds on bad days. Noticed that mild cardio, like jogging in place, helps ‘warm up’ the heart (feels cold during the episodes somehow).