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Like its various predecessors, you have to ask whether you truly trust this site with a (presumably) fairly sensitive piece of information.

true, but people keep a lot of sensitive information lying around the internet - you'd have to trust all those sites too, right?

yea but this is a very concentrated list of extremely private information - for your whole life, a list of people you were interested in hooking up with could cause all kinds of harm.

The messages, emails, and IMs you send around, not to mention your credit card/address/etc., are equally as sensitive.

Not on average. As marciovm pointed out, this is highly concentrated. It's also the kind of information you might be unlikely to put in an email or IM.

Trusting people with email and credit card info carries legal and financial risks, but this carries a social risk that can have a much longer-lasting effect.

True. Which is why I'd think twice switching email providers.

Obviously you make a decision every time you give another entity any information, and storing data with Google/Facebook/et. al. carries risks as well.

But, as others have pointed out, the concentration and nature of this information matters too.

I'm reminded of the Veronica Mars episode about the "Purity Test" -

Step 1: get everyone's socially valuable data Step 2: Hilarity/blackmail ensues

Just to be clear - I'm not accusing the site of doing anything nefarious, just pointing out the difficulty of establishing trust.

I suspect there's a lot of money to be made in figuring out how to bridge that trust gap (of course, that's a little bit like the various authentication or email trusted-sender schemes that float about - IF ONLY we could will some universally trusted and known-good structures into existence, certain problems would be that much easier to solve...)

A complete social graph and ubiquitous tools like facebook will make lots of apps like this possible.

http://thread.com is doing some interesting things here too.

it is funny how online dating is an extremely crowded space that is also wide open for new players

I think this is a great idea. If I weren't in a relationship and had some friends (or more likely, acquaintances) on Facebook I was interested in, I'd totally do this.

In terms of privacy, I would definitely trust this application not to leak information about my secret crushes. If they did, I don't see how they'd succeed.

These sites don't work how they claim to. Many people will just go fishing by putting in tons of names.

What's to stop me from putting in all my friends' names? Nothing, and that's exactly what this site wants me to do from a business perspective.

These were around for years before Facebook. Most of them just used email. I bet this site is just someone reliving their teen years, because in my teen years these sites were a dime a dozen.

It's like "The Circuit" on Logan's Run. Now we just need a mandatory termination at the age of 30.

If they started charging money would this cross the line into prostitution?

Does any online dating site that charges?

Good question. Most advertise as helping you find a life partner or date, whereas this is blatantly advertising itself as a hookup site. But there are "adult friend" finding sites so this doesnt't really differ.

I guess not.

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