The memory can recover one, detect two, and will throw up loud warning bells to any competent admin as long as it is doing so. If you see a sudden spike of ECC errors from a server, the memory is probably bad, and you replace it. If you see a sudden spike of ECC errors from a large number of servers, something is seriously wrong, and you investigate - I'd be more likely to blame it on bad power myself, or a EM Field/radiation source.
Even when trying to trigger rowhammer, the graph of bit flips is going to look like a logarithmic curve - Single-bit flips will be common, two-bits will be rare, and undetected flips will be real but ultimately not much to talk about compared to the discovered flips. You know they're there by the unrecoverable rate, and you replace the ram, discard any replicated data on that machine, and move on.