I use adblockers (ABP and Ghostery on desktop, Crystal on iOS) mostly to minimize annoyances: videos that play automatically, malicious redirects to the App Store, multiple trackers that slow down browsing or suck down data.
I'm not worried so much about safety (e.g., ads as a malware vector), but I know that happens. I don't have too much of an issue with data collection in of itself, unless a) the act of data collection impacts me (e.g., 1MB of tracking JS) or b) if your follow-on processes are sketchy and annoying (e.g., spam emails).
I have explicitly unblocked pure analytics platforms (e.g., Google Analytics), trustworthy ad platforms (e.g., The Deck), and a few "site optimization" libraries because some sites don't work without them (shame on them).
I totally get that ads are a revenue source. The problem is that you (as the publisher) need to convince me that your ad platform is trustworthy—not annoying or malicious. You have failed that test in the past and taken advantage of me as a consumer. So you now need to earn that trust back. It's not that I don't value your content, it's that I don't trust your infrastructure. (And yes, from my perspective, a third-party ad network is still your infrastructure because you've chosen to use it.)