Short men and fat women 'get fewer chances in life', research says
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Call a man short, or say you only date tall men, nobody bats an eye. Call a woman fat, or say you'll never date a fat woman, everyone goes nuts.
This also have consequence of reducing chances for younger men who would like to compete for these younger women too.
Those are same years when adult personality forms, hence we're seeing some really broken men personalities.
That then boomerangs to women in form of abusive, ignorant or insecure men.
The good thing is that there are plenty of men whom would date a woman their age and plenty of women that would date a guy who isn't rich. They are just not as vocal and live their lives quietly.
I tend to prefer the company of older women, up to 10 years older than myself. I have this preference as I've found women that are younger than me often don't know what they want.
I find it easier to have an...arrangement with older women.
The only true comparison would be something like "women who are disfigured", or "women who are super-hairy". It has to affect only a portion of the set.
People age differently.
I've met a 73 year old woman who, I swore, did not look a day over 40. I only found out her age because I used to work at a theme park where one of the games I had to run was a weight/age guessing game. I guessed 38 and her entire family was ecstatic and bursting out in laughter.
Meanwhile I nearly got hit by a woman's boyfriend for guessing she was 35. She was 24. Keep in mind my job was obviously to have fun and try to avoid insulting the customer. I guessed 35 because she looked over 40.
It will, eventually, affect every single woman. But some have a bit more time than others.
Take care.
And of course, if you start early, there is the Messi approach of using growth hormones.
Fat people who diet and exercise become big built people.
Skinny people who eat and don't work out don't become fat in a way that can be seen through street/business clothing.
The difference between 'high' and 'low' metabolism is very small. You just eat less which is why you are thin as a rail. People are very bad at self-reporting caloric intake, there are several studies on this.
In fact, there are a lot of elements of my height that I've always enjoyed. It's made me naturally athletic, in the sense that I've always been very agile. I've never not been able to trivially do pull-ups. I can do things in gymnastics without training that some much taller people with twice my strength cannot do with training. I also think that while taller people can be viewed as more dominating or powerful, at the same time shorter people can be viewed as more endearing, relatable, and morally innocent. I honestly believe that on more than one occasion I've been given the benefit of the doubt in some situation because my physical stature caused me to be viewed with more empathy and with less of a competitive spirit.
Unless you want to do it in Russia :-/ We literally had garden gnome for "president" forced on us.
No offense to capable short people here.
(also 5"8')
He's not tall but not really short either.
For what its worth the avg height from where I'm from (Asia) is 5'6". You're a giant here.
From a strategic point of view, its important to understand what our strengths and weaknesses are. I refer to this as "playing the cards you're dealt."
However, I think very often people focus on the ways that people are prejudiced against them (and their other disadvantages) in unhealthy ways: becoming demoralized, becoming angry, and using prejudice as an excuse to fail.
To be successful, you just gotta knuckle down and do it. Its good to strategically recognize and respond to your individual disadvantages, but emotionally worrying about them is not good.
Height, weight and race are feasible things to measure in a study, and thus find statistical variations. But there are a ton of factors that affect success, here are a few that I think make a big difference but are either harder to measure or not acknowledged as much:
* Feelings of ambition
* Ideas that you were exposed to when you were growing up
* If your parents are savvy people
* Your own feelings of entitlement
* Emotional predisposition
* Who your parents (and other family/friends) know
* Social intelligence
* Desire to be around people
My hypothesis: Most women reject short men as mates and most men reject fat women as mates. A successful marriage tends to strongly correlate to socioeconomic success, longevity, etc.
Are you sure? Because this, why being `obvious' after 15 seconds of thinking, may be or not be true.
My anecdotal observations reveal an unusual number of pairs where a tall woman happily dates below average height man. It works the other way too, short women often date tall men.
Anyway, no person really need most people of opposite genre accepting them as a mate. A few is usually enough.
If you'll prove that tall men have more successful marriages, it would be a huge deal, so I assume that no such correlation exist.
Successful marriage is a complicated thing and I assume that its relation to ease of dating and partner selectivity is very non-linear.
My ex husband was slightly shorter than me, so it isn't all women. But, yes, bias by women against short men is a well known thing. If they will not even accept a first date because of your height, the odds of marriage go down pretty seriously. You need to get your foot in the door and get to the altar as some minimum prerequisites for achieving a successful marriage.
Furthermore, my recorded stats of women's profiles in the online dating site Match.com show a significantly higher number of women prefer to date men of their own height or taller than women who are willing to date men shorter than them. Plus, it's also not uncommon for short women to exclusively date tall men, whereas it's very rare for even tall women to date guys who are significantly shorter than them.
It's not very relevant who people date, much more relevant who they end up with. Might be counter-intuitive.
Aren't you saying the same thing as Mz? That women will favour men taller than themselves? A tall woman will often be shorter than an above-average-height man.
In my unscientific observation, tall woman / short dude is usually linked to a relatively older woman.
I hate feeling like some of my comments get downvoted into the negatives merely for providing a female perspective. But, apparently, that bothers me less than the idea of not providing a female perspective at all.
Over time, things have gotten better. I like to think that is partly my doing.:-)
Take care.
Also one of these conditions is basically curable. Two once men become more fashion accepting.
It rubs me the wrong way as well, since my parents (well, my mother; my father grew up bilingual, so precision in english was certainly not as strong a part of his upbringing) were quite insistent that I used the correct adjectives and conjugations in english as I was growing up.
However, the less vs. fewer debate is over, common usage replacing 'fewer' with 'less' vastly outnumbers proper usage of fewer v. less; time to drop the pedantry as it is of nebulous benefit to begin with (in this particular case).
"You can't pour a glass of <some obviously enumerable item>" really doesn't matter anymore, and I feel the difference in the adjective never really conferred any meaning at all (unless, perhaps, the item you were speaking of was not obviously enumerable, but I can't think of any reasonable examples of that).
"He has less dogs than I do", "you mean 'fewer' since you can't pour a glass of dogs"
This is possibly in part because good news tends to not be a danger to your welfare, whereas bad news is something we need to pay attention to for purposes of self preservation. Similarly, you see endless arguing online in part because there is more to say if you disagree with someone then if you agree.
I largely stopped following mainstream news years ago because news = bad news.
- Confidence and good self presentation - Caring about and listening to others - Not living an immature life limited to travelling and partying but being reliable and solid and 'future proof'
I disagree with the downvotes my comments received. I think depressing news are a threat to people's psychological well-being and should therefore not be encouraged.
It's like trying to get good at a musical instrument or sport via focusing all your energy on your what you're not good at. Not a good way to spend your energy. Try passion, hope, love and daring to make a leap...
Maybe I still have things to learn. Maybe I will eventually figure out how to share positives in a way that garners substantial attention. But, so far, my observations suggest that, even on HN, there is more attention given to "bad news" than to good.