Well knowing that it does affect people, why would you use it at all? It kills me when people try to justify their nonsense.

Think of it this way. Membership in an oppressed group has its obvious detriments but it also has a few benefits...if you want to see it as a benefit. The benefit is that members can use the word but no one else can.

Gays can use the f word - noone else can Blacks can use the n word - noone else can women can use the b word - no one else can.

The real question is why are you fighting to be able to say it?