No one is saying that. Core's SegWit proposal also gives us an effective blocksize of ~2mb, the same as Classic - only without requiring a coordinated network-wide upgrade and without the risk of splitting the payment network and currency in two if everyone doesn't upgrade in time. This is the more responsible way to deploy such an upgrade, especially if you consider the capacity bump to be urgent. (a safe hard-fork would require a grace period of 6-12 months to wait for everyone to upgrade, and so would be much slower to roll out than SegWit)
Also, several of the Bitcoin Core members have committed to coding an hard-fork proposal for raising the block size limit within a few months, and to bring it up to the wider development community to gather consensus.
I do agree that this isn't about the technical issues, but about control. The bitcoin development community has been very responsive and insightful throughout the scaling debate, and has provided us with great technical solutions to some very difficult problems. The ones opposing the Bitcoin Core development community seem to disregard the technical merit of their proposals in favor of repeating personal attacks, conspiracy theories and toxicity. This is creating an hostile environment that developers will start running away from... which is a shame, because we don't really have any developers to spare - people with intersection of the domain knowledge required to work on Bitcoin (cryptography, distributed networks, game theory, economics, computer science, etc) are VERY rare.