Positive Fantasies About the Future Predict Symptoms of Depression
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In plainer terms, for some people daydreaming is its own reward, but it's a short-term reward that undermines the effort needed to achieve reward in the long-term. When the dream fades and you're still where you are, that's depressing.
Woman: I'm going to marry a rich guy that I love and have three children and live happily ever after
Man: I'm going to change the world with my non-profit start-up and be a rockstar programmer. Later, I'll sell it for billions and spend time with family.
Reality: Man and woman have a relationship that ends after 5 years, no children, and both have a standard peon job in a big company without any influence or reponsibility.
Whether it shouldn't be or not, is another matter, but men don't buy Wedding magazines or care to watch rom-coms ending with marriages as much.
This is why it is so important for companies and hiring managers to set appropriate expectations for their employees. Please do not tell people that they can expect career growth, regular challenges, and tons of opportunity if that is not the case.
People will absolutely take decent jobs with no opportunities or career growth, but you have to be honest about that. If you lie and the employee realizes it a year later, they will probably start underperforming and/or looking to leave. Appropriate expectations are paramount!
~1500 years ago: desire is the root cause of suffering.
But in both cases, talking it up does nobody any good. It's the mind being directed towards rationalizations about the future as a destination, a place to arrive at with a tidy fairy tale ending, and life doesn't really have those. What life has a lot of is journeys conducted by routine, accented with pivotal chance events. Whatever happens, you wake up the next day and continue. And that is depressing if you're convinced that an ending should take place!
I would love to read what the definition of positive fantasies in this case would be.
I'm probably mostly curious because I've always been a day-dreamer and curious what the difference from mind wandering to positive self fantasies might be.
Mind wandering - Walter Mitty style fantasies of being a submarine commander in WWII.
Positive fantasies - Finishing this graduate degree and becoming an esteemed, recognized member of your field.
Day dreaming and generally being oblivious .. is probably strongly correlated with this kind of thinking. At least anecdotally I know it in myself.
Day dreaming is the opposite of "conscientiousness".
>"Positive fantasies about the future are positively experienced mental images of future desired events that emerge in the stream of thought ... They depict an idealized version of the future that may include the attainment of desired future outcomes, as well as smooth, idealized processes of working toward these outcomes." Kappes, H. B., & Oettingen, G. (2011). Positive fantasies about idealized futures sap energy
>As expected, the more positively participants fantasized, the fewer symptoms of depression they showed at Time 1, r = −.29, p < .02, but the more symptoms they showed a month later, r = .45, p < .001 (see Table 2). The same patterns emerged when we analyzed the positive- and negative-fantasies scores separately (at Time 1: ps < .07; change between Times 1 and 2: ps ≤ .002).
http://www.philosophizethis.org/10-things-the-stoics-can-tea...
I can't even joke on this forum. Marvin Minsky and Ray Kurzweil thought of humor as a higher form of intelligence so what gives?
If anything the "common obvious wisdom" was the exact opposite: that you should "think positive".
Besides, proving the obvious is part of science. It's not enough to see that something holds, you also need to prove it.
You'd be surprised how hard proofs for "the obvious" in math can be, and even more surprise at how useful they can turn out to be.