"After receiving a number of reasonable complaints about the gender-oriented nature of this article from people I respect very much, I’ve decided to take it down for good. While the dialog was never intended as commentary on the role of gender in technology, I’m convinced that it could too easily be taken that way and am not at all comfortable with that possibility.
My deepest apologies to anyone that was offended by my work. There is nothing more terrifying to me than the thought of something I created acting as a deterrent to anyone following their ambitions, or from forming them in the first place." http://2ndscale.com/rtomayko/2004/rest-to-my-wife
What a shame- such an illuminating post had to be taken down by the author. I remember being asked in some interviews questions like how would you explain a hashmap to a 5 year old or your grandmother. I will be afraid to ask such questions, who knows how people see things these days.