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Wanna get back to them and show them they ain't shit? Be profoundly, intolerably nice to them especially when they 'correct' you. "oh, I didn't know that! Thanks! Any books specifically you could recommend on (x subject in the news that's really their hot take)?"

Then, at month 10-11 of working there, begin looking for a new job immediately.

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I can also confirm that this is the correct approach to take. Be unequivocally nice to them and go along with their charade. Don't let them get under your skin and things may improve.

I must agree. For what it's worth, at a previous job, I remember observing a real shift in my team's personalities after a few months. Negativity can be really contagious, and it's possible that an unshakably positive force (you) may be the cause of a greater shift.

Might be worth a shot.

I totally disagree. Jerk developer is always a jerk developer. Something more ... I think jerk developers are bad persons. Those are the racists guys/girls, the hotshots, the abusing coworkers people. The problem is in them ... It's not in the OP.

There is no reason for anyone in this world to tell somebody is wrong in a non-polite way . Period.

If you wanna "get back to them" you already failed. The best way that you can solve this is to find a place that doesn't allow people like this to be involved in the business.

I cannot imagine doing this without coming off as a condescending ass. And "intolerably nice" sounds like a political way of calling someone phony. I would hope no one would ever call me that.

Sticking with a toxic job for a year also seems pointless. Hopping jobs constantly looks bad, but leaving one job quickly isn't a red flag if there is a reasonable track record on the resume.

I don't think this is a good behavior. I think knowledge sharing is good. What if everyone keeps everything to themselves.

> Be profoundly, intolerably nice

> I don't think this is a good behavior

Being nice/personable isn't a good behavior?

Being unbearably nice is difficult to pull off without mocking. It's a fine line generally only walked to make a point.

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