Your experience doesn't reflect the experience of all others.
I believe that's the standard social justice retort to your claims.
Being a more logically minded person, I'll instead invert it; your retort to my comment is that one person in the aforementioned demographic (e.g. a white/asian male) doesn't agree with me. If I could find one person in your aforementioned demographic (e.g. a black female) who didn't agree with you, would that be a valid retort against your comment?
How is the claim that not all asian people agree with your father or had traumatic experiences with terrorism also invalidating experiences your father had? You claim to be a logical minded person but I'm not following the logic that your father's experiences are invalidated when someone says they don't share that view.
Now, about your feelings and uncomfortableness it's up to you.
And there's a reason there's a famous book titled "how to lie with statistics".
The purpose of the NCVS is to track crimes and their characteristics without relying on (often biased, and frequently manipulated) police reports.
Where do you get most your news?
Most of this is gang related, and goes almost entirely unreported, even in Chicago itself. This trend is not unique to Chicago, either