It is entirely optional, and don't fit normal definitions of "spyware".
This is a dark UX anti-pattern, using the same technique as a regular scammer or phishing site.
Google is absolutely, horrifyingly into evil territory here.
I don't particularly care about this spyware debate but I can't see how something bad being better than something else bad bears any relevance unless we are talking about choosing between two bad options.
People clicking the "I agree" button on a EULA is not consent.