Inside the Sony Hack
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To me both Sony and Ashley Madison are part of a very different type of hack, that we are just starting to understand.
They leak massive amounts of personal information, and this personal information can and does ruin lives. This article outlines much of the emotional turmoil that Sony employees went through, and in Ashley Madison, there were suicides as a result:
http://money.cnn.com/2015/09/08/technology/ashley-madison-su...
You can rotate your credit card number, but rotating your real life is not possible.
I don't see a way out. Going anonymous might be possible for living on the internet, but you cannot be anonymous to your employer.
Why not? Why does your employer need all of your personal information?
If your employer can't even secure your basic info, maybe the relationship with the employer should be rethought?
Of course it should. Why on earth does my employer control my access to healthcare? Don't count on that system changing any time soon, though.
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But I hate the phrase "ruin lives". How are lives ruined? Bad things happen to people all the time, and their lives continue. It's really a poor way to talk about these issues.
Leaking of your social security number can result in your credit rating being ruined for years. This will leave you unable to take our a mortgage, buy a car, etc. etc. In the Ashley Madison hack, details of people being unfaithful in their marriages was exposed, which has led to divorce and even suicide.
If that doesn't count as a "ruined life", what does?
Aside from that, people will respond to those problems in a myriad of ways. Almost all of them keep living and return to their baseline emotional state again. Using the phrase "ruined life" ignores human resiliency which is very powerful. It makes us sound like teenagers experiencing our first heartbreak.
But for the examples you gave upthread, it would be more accurate and useful to say "ruined credit" (and in that case, it's really only for some years) or "ruined marriage".
If someone spent their life in prison and lost their mind due to a wrongful conviction, I'd call that a "ruined life". And if you feel your life is ruined, you should say it.
But I read the phrase "ruined life" and I really don't think it communicates anything except for "bad thing". So why not just express the value judgment and say "That's bad and here's why" rather than trying to describe a life as "ruined"? It's another phrase that has lost whatever meaning it once had.
Getting your credit back to good standard is a really really tough effort.
Like 'closure' I see how it is a toxic saying that harms people.
Did telling people their life is ruined (and having that attitude) just because they had an affair publicised, contribute to the suicides, perhaps. Self fulfilling.
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