Not a huge fan of Confluence (just give me Markup, dammit), but Jira is simply the best at what it does.
It is almost NEVER brought in by management.
The only exception is if Jira is used for project management type stuff - those projects can and should be isolated from dev projects.
Sounds like all the developers you know hate how their bosses use tools. I happen to love how my team uses Jira.
Much happier with Trello and a zero bug policy.
Oh, why hadn't I thought of that...