No, Spooning Isn’t Sexist. The Internet Is Just Broken
thedailybeast.com
thedailybeast.com
The likes of people who write essays on subjects like the sexism of spooning are operating from a consistent worldview ground in critical theory and postmodern feminism, which analyze all human relations through the purview of identity, and reaffirm the sanctity of identity politics. These self-destructive memes that shoehorn humanity into repressive categories and labels under the false pretense of deconstructing and delegitimizing them (in fact, they only protract them and render people subservient to their expectations, just as intended) have also largely destroyed the feminist movement starting at the second half of the second wave, which has over the past few years seen an enormous renaissance.
Where many feminists will claim to be concerned with equity, they in fact operate under a complex framework of gender and intersectionality with results anathema to any actual equity or egalitarianism. Why is it the likes of Christina Hoff Sommers, Wendy McIlroy and Camille Paglia - some of the last classical feminists concerned with equality are so frequently derided as "anti-feminists"? Because the movement has long went past any notions of it.
Edit: I appreciate your asking. It's a valid question.
In practice, it is used either as a naive adder (if being black carries disadvantages over being white and being a woman carries disadvantages over being a man, then it is reasoned being a black woman is even worse than being a black man - ignoring that stereotypes, incarceration rates and racially motivated violence have largely been skewed to the latter), or as a carte blanche to blame all forms of oppression on patriarchy.