"The language in which the metaprogram is written is called the metalanguage. The language of the programs that are manipulated is called the object language. The ability of a programming language to be its own metalanguage is called reflection or reflexivity."
Reflection is what I was describing. Asking a function its arity is indeed accomplished by passing said function to some other function, but if you want to find the source code for this function look for "reflection" because that's where it should be defined.
"Metaprogramming usually works through one of two ways. The first way is to expose the internals of the run-time engine to the programming code through application programming interfaces (APIs). The second approach is dynamic execution of string expressions that contain programming commands. Thus, 'programs can write programs'. Although both approaches can be used in the same language, most languages tend to lean toward one or the other."
You seem to only accept the second kind as meta-programming. What do you base your description on? Knowing that would make it easier to see where you're coming from and hopefully what the source of the misunderstanding is.