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Golddiggers are probably the only ones who are influenced by your job title but whatever floats your boat.

It's a well-researched fact that women are reluctant to "date down" (in terms of social standing, education, professional achievement and wealth), whereas men don't care - they (we) are mostly interested in how attractive a woman is.

Is this your own personal experience?

Also: define "attractive".

> Is this your own personal experience?

I haven't paid much attention to it personally.

Sorry, by "attractive" I meant "physically attractive".

It's strange - I've lived in several (Western) countries but have to witness this seemingly pervasive behaviour that men are driven mostly by physical attractiveness.

Anecdata I know but I've seen lots of good looking girls get minimum attention because of their shyness or insecurity. I've seen the opposite of this tons of times.

It appears you misunderstood me. I'm not trying to say that there is some objective standard of beauty that all men agree with - there certainly are variations in personal preferences and tastes. Just like in women.

The point is, if a man finds a girl physically attractive, it doesn't matter to him whether she's a waitress or a CEO. On the other hand, women are more likely to find the CEO more attractive than a waiter.

While we're throwing around baseless stereotypes, the one I've heard is that men are reluctant to "date up", and successful women have trouble finding mates because of this.

I wouldn't consider doctors, lawyers, and other professionals "golddiggers". Some people want to date "on their level" I've been told.

Well they're not mutually exclusive but I can kind of see where you're coming from.

I think you're setting yourself up to miss out on a lot if you're only interested in dating someone who makes X dollars a year though.

gold diggers are the best because they're easy to spot, and good for a quick, easy lay.

that's what floats my boat.

quite honestly these days if you're looking for true love you're a fucking fool.

You're either a troll or seriously hung up on an ex-girlfriend/ex-boyfriend.

i've never been the relationship type. my hangups are on other things.

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